Well I did well with that till in July I caught myself writing June and in August I was writing July so I decided to drop the date thing since I couldn't keep it straight my self....... Tom keeps saying I'm the one who is confusing him........ AND I say to him I caught it from you! : )
SO I wiped the slate clean and drew a face, leaving the mouth off. I titled it Tommy's Mood.......... He thought that was funny.
He said, "you only gave me three hairs." I said, "that's all you have on top. I counted." (He has lot's of hair) He said, "you gave me big ears. I said, "because you have big elephant ears and I was nice and made them smaller." He laughed as he has little ears.
The first day he put a smile on it....... I told him that was nice. And I was glad he was having a good day.
Well yesterday " W A S N ' T" a good day. I could tell when he got up that he was dealing with anxiety. He told me later that he woke from a night mare and couldn't shake it. (His dreams are clear, vivid, some stupid some night mares, but all are as real as can be. "Characteristic of Alz." )
The first half the morning Tom rolled cigarettes and I stayed busy so I wouldn't accidentally ignite the fuel.....but stayed near as I knew he was also scared.
Later I went to town to get him gas for the riding lawn mower. When I got home he met me on the drive way. He was on the 4-wheeler? I stopped to see what he was up to. Obviously he wasn't mowing grass. He said the lawn mower won't start. He looked at my front tire and said..."GET THE CAR UP TO THE HOUSE NOW!" I said "what's wrong?" He said "NOW!"
So I drive up to the house and got out to look at what's wrong. My front tire was smoking...... I knew the ball joint was bad but the starter is shot too so I was just driving on borrowed time. He didn't know that.
So the lawn mower crapped and the car crapped all in the same day. I burst out laughing and he went for a ride.....When he came back he was able to realize that these two events don't mean the end of the world or our lives..... I said well at least the 4-wheeler is still running and WE still have the push mower : )
LATER I noticed he had changed the smile on the white board.
He said he did it when the mower wouldn't start and than he was REALLY mad.... I said "I see that. Boy that's a really mad face.!"We busted out laughing "together"
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What we call bad days are the effects of Alzheimers.... Anger with no cause. It's a feeling he hates and battles as he is aware it's not warranted and beyond his control. It's scary at times but all we can do is ride the wave.
WE fight this disease with humor when we can hence the face on the white board.
1 comment:
That's so sad...but so hilarious!!!
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