The weather has been beautiful......... Tom's bum knee has slowed him down so I suggested working on a knock out tan.......So he putzes around and settles in the sun......
I've been feeding his vanity to keep him off the lawn mower subject which is hard to do as the lawn mower is right in front of the house by the door......"we are going to need to mow grass by this week end " he warns me....... "Yep" is all I say to that. My thoughts continue....."not if we don't get any rain.... and there is none in the forecast!
Yesterday when he took a spin down the road and back I started cleaning up the lawn mower. The paint is like new under a lot of black dirt/oil/grim.......
As he drove in and seen what I was doing he started laughing.... "what are you doing?........"cleaning up the lawn mower........it's so shinny people will think you are driving a John Deere.......besides I figured it would run better clean."
He joined in and helped me..... "remember when we use to go over to the plant (asphalt plant in Colorado where he worked for 10 years before we moved back here) and clean and wax your loader?" ....." Yes"...he chuckled......"well this is no where near the size but it's still your equipment and it shouldn't look like this."
I think it made him feel good.....
Oh by the way...... Yesterday morning I was running the vac through the house quick before I joined him and the girls out side....when I stepped out the door to shake the rugs, there was smoke on the edge of the woods.... "TOM!!! are you burning?"........" I just wanted to see what it would do!" he answers........
I've been feeding his vanity to keep him off the lawn mower subject which is hard to do as the lawn mower is right in front of the house by the door......"we are going to need to mow grass by this week end " he warns me....... "Yep" is all I say to that. My thoughts continue....."not if we don't get any rain.... and there is none in the forecast!
Yesterday when he took a spin down the road and back I started cleaning up the lawn mower. The paint is like new under a lot of black dirt/oil/grim.......
As he drove in and seen what I was doing he started laughing.... "what are you doing?........"cleaning up the lawn mower........it's so shinny people will think you are driving a John Deere.......besides I figured it would run better clean."
He joined in and helped me..... "remember when we use to go over to the plant (asphalt plant in Colorado where he worked for 10 years before we moved back here) and clean and wax your loader?" ....." Yes"...he chuckled......"well this is no where near the size but it's still your equipment and it shouldn't look like this."
I think it made him feel good.....
Oh by the way...... Yesterday morning I was running the vac through the house quick before I joined him and the girls out side....when I stepped out the door to shake the rugs, there was smoke on the edge of the woods.... "TOM!!! are you burning?"........" I just wanted to see what it would do!" he answers........
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Tom had an episode last week end....I had to remove my self and the girls from the house so he could calm down as I could see he was escalating and wasn't about to stop.......
A reaction from me would add fuel to the fire and I NEVER react..... But I can also see he won't stop.... looking for a reaction. So when I remove myself if he doesn't remove himself..... it put's the fire out.
When my kids were little I would put them in their rooms and told them they were welcome to come out as soon as they calmed down...... well Tom is too big for me to physically put him in his room so I opt to remove myself right out of the house..... He calms quickly......
Tom is drinking coffee day and night..... I have now slipped in de-caf at night and after 3:00 pm. It's making a difference with the aid of his new medication.....
It's a work in progress......
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