I have to protest here.... I think there should be a law or something that keeps someone from firing a perfectly good caregiver..... It's hard to be "good" at this job and this just added insult to injury when Tom fired me today and said he'd find a replacement.....he didn't need me.....
I said, "Well" (with an attitude) " that's just fine but until my replacement comes to take over I will continue to be as good of a caregiver I can be and continue to do all the things I do now." I said, "your stuck with me until than buddy boy!"
He said, "well mark my words...on the first of the month I am moving out to the shack...in fact I can move my shack over to Ryan's (neighbor) and live in it just fine by myself."
I just knew he found himself a "little trapper lady" to replace me..... on that trapper forum he is always on....... lol I asked him last night and he said..."MOM.... quit it...... I did not".....
Even before Alz.... Tom and the word NO did not go together... I learned early on how to get the same thing across with out using that word. I give Tom as much freedom of choice as I can as he is losing control over his life.
Well day after day after day after day........ the same issue kept coming up and I tried every tactic in the book to defuse this issue.... but it was always temporary. This is what they call an "obsession"..... and talk about the reason button broken.....
So today I just plain and simple said ....... N O ! Thats why he fired me as his caregiver.
Now they get really mad and oh boy....... but I always tease about losing my job if I don't keep him happy and he always laughs and says..."Mom you never have to worry about that...I'll keep you forever......You take really good care of me" .......
That worked in my favor today because he had that to use when he got that mad.....
The obsession in there mind is totally consuming....... He can calm himself for awhile....but it slowly creeps back in and eats away at him till he once again explodes.......
I think I'm in the beginning of a new phase....... I'm seeing some long term memory issues too.... they are small and temporary as with a reminder you get the oh yah!
But they are beginning to happen none the less.
To those who still think there is nothing wrong with him............"he sounds fine to me!" I invite you to come stay with him for a few days so I can go see my new Grand Baby who doesn't know me or so I can go spend some time with my Mother who won't be around when this is over...........
It breaks my heart to see him like this..... it's even causing him physical pain.....the head aches are relentless and the anxiety brings him to tears........... and he doesn't understand "WHY?"
❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥Someone Asked Why?❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥❥
Super women took a nose dive into the ground. She hit with such force she was buried for weeks. A heavy equipment operator was called in by God. He dug till he found her. She was still breathing but emotionally frail.
He took one look at her and he felt something he has never felt before. So when God said take care of her and love her......he did. He tried to walk away but couldn't....God filled him with an abundance of all the qualities he already possessed and said use these now to help her grow to her full potential as one day you will need what she has to give......
So he put her on a pedestal and kept her dusted and polished for years. Everyday he would polish and shine her and gave her everything he had inside as God instructed.
As the years slowly passed........and she shined like the brightest star in the sky......(He did an awesome job).....but now he was slowly losing himself.
She asked God with tears in her eyes " where is he going?" God said "he is going back to where he first came. It's a long hard journey and he needs you to help him get there safely."
I will give you an abundance of all you need to help him on his journey back to me, for that is where he came from.
So to those who ask why? Because I believe in fairy tales...He is my knight in shining armor...... He literally guarded me with his life.....
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Super women took a nose dive into the ground. She hit with such force she was buried for weeks. A heavy equipment operator was called in by God. He dug till he found her. She was still breathing but emotionally frail.
He took one look at her and he felt something he has never felt before. So when God said take care of her and love her......he did. He tried to walk away but couldn't....God filled him with an abundance of all the qualities he already possessed and said use these now to help her grow to her full potential as one day you will need what she has to give......
So he put her on a pedestal and kept her dusted and polished for years. Everyday he would polish and shine her and gave her everything he had inside as God instructed.
As the years slowly passed........and she shined like the brightest star in the sky......(He did an awesome job).....but now he was slowly losing himself.
She asked God with tears in her eyes " where is he going?" God said "he is going back to where he first came. It's a long hard journey and he needs you to help him get there safely."
I will give you an abundance of all you need to help him on his journey back to me, for that is where he came from.
So to those who ask why? Because I believe in fairy tales...He is my knight in shining armor...... He literally guarded me with his life.....
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